A guide to proposals: Your ultimate checklist
You’re thinking of popping the question but how do you really know if it’s really the right thing to do? What if you get a ‘no?’ Imagine if you’ve misjudges the situation and she’s not looking to get engaged for a couple of years or more?
Before you dash out to buy the bling, why not peruse our proposal checklist to make sure that the biggest decision of your life, is also the right one.
Are you both ready?
Sure, you’ve been dating for a couple of years and you can’t imagine not being together, but are you 100% sure you are both ready for the next big step? Most couples who end up getting married have at least broached the subject with each other. If you’ve never uttered the ‘marriage’ word in their presence, then maybe now is the time to. A marriage is a lifelong commitment (not just a big wedding party!) so you need to be certain it’s what you both want.
Work out a budget and stick to it.
Although the proposal should be one of the most special moments in both your lives, it’s not worth bankrupting yourself before the wedding. So, when picking a ring be realistic in regards to your budget - and be sure to stick to it.
Is your fiancée-to-be traditional and wants you to do it the old-fashioned way?
It could be important to that you ask for the father’s permission before popping the question. Or there may be other cultural or personal factors at play. You should be aware of them - make sure you know, either way.
It’s important when planning the perfect proposal to get the setting right.
If your fiancee is reserved, then a flashmob proposal in a busy park isn’t like to be up their street. They'll love an intimate private proposal for just the two of you to share. But if they're gregarious and enjoys the spotlight then perhaps an outlandish, public proposal is what she’s always imagined. You want to be 100% sure they’ll be comfortable and enjoy the moment.
Getting the ring right is vital.
It’s not just a question of the design, type of stone and cut. It’s also a question of heirloom vs bespoke. If your potential fiancee always dreamed of an expensive, sparkling ring made especially to fit their finger, then you’ll need to head to the jewellers and save up for your target budget. But if it’s a family heirloom that matters more, then you’ll need to speak to relatives to track down great-granny’s or grandpa's ring.
Be sure to pen your proposal speech in advance of the day:
Remember: Practice makes perfect. You don’t want to sound like a bumbling idiot as you ask the love of your life the most important question you’ll ever ask, so plan what you’re going to say.